Are you tired of dating and feeling disappointed that you haven't met your perfect love match? You might be making these three dating mistakes that block you from love and take the fun out of dating. This is good news. Once you identify your dating mistake, you can correct it with these simple shifts in your dating plan.
Dating Mistake Number One: Seeking A Perfect Love Match
Have you created your mental picture of your perfect match? Do you go on dates with a list of qualities you seek in your ideal match? Do you reject every date who doesn't measure up to your physical, financial, intellectual, spiritual or social standards? Would you like to change your dating experience?
Here's what to do instead:
Your task is not to seek perfect love but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it. This love tip was revealed hundreds of years ago by the poet, Rumi. How can you use it to improve your love life today?
Look at the Love Tests that you present to a date. Now imagine that your date expected you to pass the same Love Tests. How would you score on your own Love Tests? Do you bring everything to a relationship that you desire in return? If not, why not? Why is it so important to ask yourself these questions?
Like attracts like. If you keep attracting a date with qualities that you don't like, your date may be a mirror that reflects a weakness that you need to strengthen within yourself. When you do so, you will attract a date who reflects the qualities in the new improved you.
Dating Mistake Number Two: Seeing Each New Date Through The Veil Of Your Past
Do you expect the same old patterns and problems with each new date you meet? If you were betrayed in a past relationship, do you keep looking for any signs of disloyalty in a new date? Do you expect the same old disappointments and notice that you always get what you expect? Ready to change your dating experience?
Here's what to do instead:
Know that what you see will be. What you focus on grows. When you focus on your veil of past troubles, it blocks your clear view of the here and now. The best way to grow is to let go of your blocks to growth.
How?
Simply toss off your veil to gain a clear view of reality. You can choose to see each past trauma as a fluffy cumulus cloud. You try to cling to it, and it eludes your grasp. You dive into it, and it can't hold you. Poof! You can let go of it's hold on you, when you see each cloud as a fleeting blip in your blue skies.
When you are free to see and enjoy blue skies, you will welcome each new experience and attract a date who shares your view.
Dating Mistake Number 3: Waiting For A Date To Add Excitement To Your Life
If you often feel bored, it means you are making boring choices. Waiting for a date to make your life exciting means you will attract an equally-bored date who is waiting for you to spark up their life. Sound exciting?
Here's what to do instead:
Know that you are whole and wonderful as you are. When you suffer from an excitement deficiency, you can make better choices that add excitement to your daily life.
How?
Make a list of all the fun things you want to do, and then make a play date with you to do something fun each day.
To enjoy some low-cost fun, start an affair of art. Would you like to sing, dance, cook, paint, take photos or classes that tickle your fancy?
Give yourself permission to start today. You will enjoy a creative rush that revs up your excitement in each day and in your dates.
And if you'd like more tips you can use to attract love and create a happy relationship, check out weekly interviews and episodes in the adventures of author Hadley Finch and her savvy friends, the Tribe Of Blondes. Not a hair color, it's a resilient, hopeful spirit that unites us and fuels our adventures.
After her efforts to save her two-decade marriage failed, author and songwriter Hadley Finch picked herself up, revived her dreams, and started a quest to find the next great love of her life, with help from her friends. Hadley wrote a novel and bonus album of songs, TRIBE OF BLONDES, inspired by her real life adventures with real tips you can use to survive a break up, start fresh and love again. This novel will debut in book stores in March '09.
Also in Spring, '09, the Tribe Of Blondes will begin to unite singles in a new, video-interactive social networking site, Tribe Of Singles.
In the meantime, get your tips for inspired dating and relationships when you join Hadley Finch for new episodes each week at http://www.tribeofblondes.com
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