Motivate and Reward Yourself - Go on Dates!

Like I've said before, you have to keep dating until you find someone. Sometimes, it can be hard to go on dates after rejections and disappointments, but you have to keep trying. If you go out on no less than 2 dates a week for 3 months, there's an 80% chance that you'll find love. If you do the same thing for 6 months, there's a 90% chance. However, you need to be motivated to go on all of these dates. Motivating yourself isn't as complicated as you think.

Some scientists argue that everything you do is because you either want to get a reward or want to avoid a punishment. Think about why you do the things that you do almost every day. You might brush your teeth because you want to avoid the punishment of people thinking you have bad breath, or you want to avoid the punishment of having dental problems. You might go to work because you want the reward of money, you don't want to have the punishment of losing your job, or a combination of both.

Dating is no different. You probably date because you want to be rewarded with finding a great relationship. Sometimes, it's hard to be motivated if you're not rewarded instantly. It may seem like the instant reward of sitting at home and watching a funny show might outweigh the long term reward of finding the love of your life.

Think of it this way: if you buy a latte, you get to drink it almost instantly, but if you want to buy a new car, you have to save up enough money which could take several months. It's tempting to have the smaller, instant reward, but you'll enjoy the bigger reward more when you finally get it. If you give up on dating, you will have the small reward of having an evening to yourself. But, if you stick with it for a few months, you will have the large reward of having the love of your life every day.

Which is more worth it, watching TV or finding love? It's your decision, but I hope that you choose to find love because I know what great happiness it can bring.

If you're still having trouble with motivation, you should get your friends involved. Social consequences are very powerful, so if you tell your friend that you'll go on a double date with him or her, you'll be less likely to cancel because you don't want to upset your friend. You can also have your friend make you give them $25 for every week you don't have at least 2 dates. Think of it like a parking ticket. You didn't do what you were supposed to, and you got fined. Plus, your friend will love it!

If this doesn't sound good to you, come up with your own creative solution. Using these motivation techniques won't just help you in dating, but you can also apply them to other areas of your life.