In this classic love story, Lizzy wins Mr. Darcy. Miss Elizabeth Bennett is the quintessential role model for how to find a husband. Lizzy won Mr. Darcy's heart because she presented herself as a challenge to him. She did so even though she had no other prospects, even though she might have become an old-maid, even though there were family pressures to marry.
Even though his station in life was very much above hers, Lizzy never comprised her own value. Not for an instant. She valued herself equally. So the challenge was that Mr. Darcy had to deserve her. He had to clearly demonstrate his intent.
And over the course of time, by displaying intelligence, a compatible personality and confidence in herself, she developed a true friendship with him that challenged Mr. Darcy to acknowledge her inherent value. He did. And she won his heart!
That's what women today have to do-because the nature of men hasn't changed. His nature is still geared to pursue. Therefore, set yourself as the Prize a man has to pursue, and, if he has interest in you, he will pursue.
This doesn't mean being selfish and arrogant and spoiled. It simply means learning to understand how men think about the pursuit. Using this knowledge, you then act in ways that will benefit the two of you. Subsequently, he will hold you near and dear as the woman he wants as his wife.
So how does a woman accomplish this?
First, in this day where women outnumber men by a wide margin, it is imperative that women understand how men view dating and the pursuit. Many women today are too aggressive in initiating the pursuit. So let's talk about human nature-about men and the challenge.
Men love a challenge. Men love sex. And when a man meets a woman he's attracted to, his first thought is sex. The challenge is how to get it and how soon he can get it. This is his thinking before he gets to know you as a person, before he appreciates your value, and before he considers any future with you. That's his challenge.
Your challenge is to not give in to sex too soon because if you do, he will think he's won off the first pass and will move on before he gets to know you as someone special. That's because in that scenario, you did not allow enough time to develop a true friendship between the two of you. He did not have time enough to get to know you well enough to value you and to love you.
The first tactic then on how to find a husband is to learn to use time as your best ally in building a friendship with him that establishes a relationship. Time to set a foundation for emotional bonding before giving your all. Time for him to get to know you as someone special. Time enough for him to win you for your love. How he would do that depends on the situation and circumstances.
What matters is that there would be evidence that he put forth time and effort to win your love. And in so doing, you two would establish a 'history' together as friends. And this friendship is the answer to how to find a husband the Elizabeth Bennett way.
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