Why Do I Never Get Past the First Date, Is It Me?

Do you have a lot of awkward moments like this?

Woman: Hi, you must be George Smith

Man: No my name is George Smite

Woman: Are you the man my friend Helen set me up with?

Man: Yes!

Woman: Then your name must be George Smith! Let's go!

Man: No madam, my name is George Smite.

Woman: You are the most argumentative man I have ever met. I no longer want to go out with you.

Sometimes it is hard for people to communicate, especially in awkward situations. People often do not put our best foot forward when we are trying our hardest. Other times the person we are dealing with seems to be from another planet. It is so hard to get acquainted with someone new because neither person knows what to expect.

How can you meet someone you can communicate your deepest feelings with, when you can't even find someone who understands plain English? How can you find someone you can fall in love with, when so far you haven't found anyone you can tolerate for more than a few hours. Is it possible to find love, when you can't even find someone you like?

Have you entered the fourth circle of dating Hades?

Once you have asked out all the eligible people in your small circle of friends, then met their friends, and eventually end up blind dating friends of friends of friends none of which you have ever met, it is probably time to try something different.

Are you getting too shy for singles bars?

As Teens it was so easy to meet people because we go out more and we know more people then. As we get older and busier with our career, we tend to become more introverted and set in our ways. We become creatures of habit, with little time or interest in socialising. We loose our edge and we forget how to converse with others comfortably in social situations. It is really hard as a mature adult to go into a singles bar, and try to pick someone up. Why? Because it just doesn't seem like what we want any more. Perhaps you are ready for a meaningful relationship, but just can't find a relationship that has the potential to be meaningful.

Have you thought of getting professional help?

Dating Agencies can be very helpful in situations like this, because unlike your friends, dating agencies are professionals who can match you with people who would be compatible with you. It is all very scientific and precise. They have extensive questionnaires which narrow your choices and select people you would really like to date, and who are eager to meet you. Sometimes they use video clips of each person to allow you and the other person to view each other without that awful risk of rejection.

Only interested applicants need apply

Wouldn't it be great to know upon meeting someone, that you definitely will have a lot of things in common and that the person has already seen and admired your appearance, and observed you on video tape without backing off? Using a dating agency takes a lot of the risk away for both parties.

Susan is a relationship expert who guides couples and singles in the dating world. Susan works for Lovestruck who are a website that offers a dating agencies London service to its members. With Lovestruck London you search and meet singles who live nearby. If you live in the UK then why not try and meet professionals, for a date at lunchtime or after work and sign up with London dating agencies - and find love?