Dating ID and the Love Predators

Most of us may think we are too smart to be conned. This is just what the Love Predator counts on--an element of denial working in you while they work their magic on you. As the saying goes, "Love is blind," and while your intentions are based on giving and receiving; theirs are based on taking whatever they can, and then leaving you. Con Artists and the love predators, go straight for your "love is blind spot."

In my blind spot, an adept con artist came along who courted and married me with the intent to take my home, business, money, credit, and identity. And although these cases are increasingly commonplace, it's unlikely to happen to you. However, in this era of easy anonymity, any one of us can fall prey to a love interest hiding behind a false identity; what I call a Love Predator.

With identity theft and Internet fraud, a new crime wave has emerged. It now extends to a person's love life. Since these fraudulent activities involve matters of the heart, they are classified as civil, and allow love predators to easily escape criminal prosecution. In fact, because of the anonymity factor, the true identity of a perpetrator may never be known. The damage to our culture grows daily and requires a pro-active approach.

On the quest for love, risks and dangers may include a betrayed heart, abandonment disorder, loss of self-esteem, trust, and time; as well as damage to your psyche, making it more complex to attract the love of your life. Use wisdom when looking for romance and dating success in the 21st Century. And use Dating ID.

What is a dating ID? Entry to the online social networking environment requires a PC, but no identification. Dating ID or Dating Identification is a new system to determine a person's identity in order to support a truthful dating environment.

And because of easy anonymity, the entire dating landscape has changed. Matchmaking services, online dating sites, and relationship coaches advocate background searches for their clients and members to guard against romance scams. Dating ID is not a background search. Rather, it is an identity certification issued to individuals who deliberately apply for it.

With the acceptance and popularity of online dating, the number of people who use false photographs, wrong marital status, and false profiles is steadily rising. Marcus Frind, founder of plentyoffish.com said both men and women are equally guilty when it comes to fudging profiles. "With women, it's weight; for men, it's height. A third party (giving an assessment) is the simplest way to go." Other dating sites such as True.com and E-Harmony have followed suit providing identity verification for online dating site members. The fraud can range from fudging to gross misrepresentations of identity factors, with intent for personal gain.

I have developed the Dating ID concept over the past few years in answer to my con artist husband. Instead of getting bitter, I got better and filed a patent for DATING ID with the United States Trademark and Patent Office. I also share the true story, "Oops, I Married a Con Artist," about my marriage to a man impersonating an Air Force Pilot during the 911 era in hopes that others will step up and confront this growing crime wave in a proactive manner.

Ms Deborah Nelson is a writer/inventor/entrepreneur and owner of several businesses including The AdStuff Company, Vacation Suites Global; and founder of The Dating Passport http://www.mydatingpassport.com nominee of the Entreprenureal Excellence Award given by WORKING WOMEN'S MAGAZINE. She is a published author and national finalist in the Ms Corporate America Pageant in 2008. You may obtain her true story, "Oops, I Married a Con Artist, and Dating Wisdom for the 21st Century," from The Dating Passport website. Nelson has been interviewed on live national TV about the Dating Passport on a segment covering Internet Fraud in 2008 on the Fox Network.