In a world where switching partners is as fast and easy as switching shirts, in a time when sex is something people do "casually," at an age where love is a word thrown about too carelessly, Christian men and women may find themselves at a loss when it comes to dating. How does one honor Christ when it comes to his or her romantic relationships? How are Christian men supposed to behave towards women and vice versa? How does one keep one's dating life pure, holy and Godly?
1. Friendship first.
St. Paul writes in his letter to the Timothy that women should treat men as brothers and men should treat older women as mothers and younger women as sisters (1Timothy 5:1-2). This doesn't mean to say that all relationships should remain purely platonic (is that even possible?). Instead, what St. Paul is trying to instill in his church is a certain level of respect when it comes to relationships between men and women. Men must not objectify women (and vice versa) and see them as mere objects of desire, but rather, love and respect them as they would their own family members. That's why it is important for men and women to establish good, solid friendships while they are dating. Being "just friends" with someone allows you to get to know the person better, without the complications of getting "too close too soon" or having a relationship based solely on physical attraction.
2. Keep it pure.
Also, while a couple is yet only dating, they must keep in mind that if things don't work out between them, the other person may someday become someone else's wife/husband. Thus, they must keep their relationship pure. Being pure doesn't only mean not having sex. Christ tells us that if a man merely looks at a woman with lust, he has already committed sin against her. So, be honest with yourself and know your limits. If kissing compromises your purity, then don't kiss. Just keep in mind that you're not only keeping yourself pure to be pleasing to God, but you're also saving yourself for that special someone God created just for you.
3. Put a ring on it.
In the end, bear in mind that as long as you're not married to the person you're dating, you have no "right" to be intimate (physically, as well as emotionally and spiritually) with him or her. Know and respect that. Don't tempt yourself (and your date!) otherwise. And guys, if you really think a girl you're dating for some considerable time now is the One you want to spend the rest of your life with, then go ahead and put a ring on it! Give her what she deserves.
To conclude, there are no easy rules about dating because dating is not easy. And for men and women who seek to please God in their relationships, it is serious business indeed. But keep in mind next time you're on a date: how would I want a guy/girl on a date with my future husband/wife to behave? And do just that. Trust me, you won't regret it.
"Love your neighbor as you love yourself."
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