Webster describes transition as a change - movement from one stage to another. And that's exactly what we want our relationships to do - MOVE. From the initial introduction and first date stage to "I want to get to know you better stage." Then if there's substance between the two of you, move through the process:
1. Positive First Date Impression
2. Time of Testing
3. Dating Exclusively
4. Verbal Intimacy
5. Commitment
6. Engagement
The advantage of transitioning through all six transitions is that you know where you are in the relationship at any given time. You know what's working and what isn't. You can gauge where you are; you can gauge where your partner is and work toward leveling the playing field before you both move to the next level together.
Again, power of the transitions is the insight given to determine whether two people are 'right' for each other, whether you have what it takes to pledge lifetime love to your partner-whether you should marry or not.
Each of the transitions serves an outstanding purpose before moving into the next one. For instance, during Transitions 1, 2 and 3, both partners should gather only one certain kind of information. This is CRITICAL because you are actually storing a bank of this special information to be used in later transition phases.
However, at transition 2 something strange happens. It can shock and surprise women. Even frustrates and anger them. To men, though, it's normal.
But because men and women are different, a woman's reaction toward the man at this phase can make or break the relationship. It's imperative to understand what happens during this transition period. A woman must understand it in all its twists and turns so she doesn't undermine her initial relationship because of misunderstanding. If not careful, she could blow it!
Transition 4 is a giant step toward verbal intimacy. This is key to understanding the deep nature and mindset of your potential partner. At this point you learn the value of 'time' in developing and growing love.
Transition 5 is a lot more than selection of bridal gown and wedding cake. It's learning to ask the tough questions you have to ask of each other BEFORE saying "I do."
And finally how does Principled Love play into the final results. How is it the key to lifetime Love and how is it practiced?
Transition 6 is the time to practice the two most important
skills of staying married: the ability to apologize and to forgive. The perfect time to practice giving apologies and finding forgiveness is during engagement.
Sometimes there's a wedding day; sometimes there isn't. Whatever happens you'll know exactly WHY or WHY NOT.
This kind of preparation is vital if two people want to avoid the unhappiness of divorce and separation. Learn what you have to do, why you should do it and how to do it to find your own true love. And you'll get the best answer to your question: Should I marry him? Educate yourself for lifetime love.
My name is Donna Patterson. At [http://www.readyformarriagedating.com], I teach women the limits of Uncommitted love and sex to instead discover the six critical decisions necessary to establish Committed Love first, leading to genuine love and a husband as best friend in marriage based on a six-step transitions process. Also, Download 6 FREE Sure-Fire Dating Tips. Click here: [http://www.readyformarriagedating.com]
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