Can My Love Become a Life Partner?

This is the question, which seems very easy and very typical both. If you question any young couple, definitely you will find a positive reply. But, if you contact the parents, you will have to come back with a reply "NO". Both are right at their places. Both have their different and quite important reasons behind their perceptions.

Most of the couples say that it is their life, and they are capable enough to choose the perfect companion for them. The commonest reason, they give, is that they can adjust more easily with one, whom they are in love with, than with a stranger. They say they have trust and good understanding between them, which never let them have any confusion or suspicion.

Parents have their own ideas. They say they are experienced enough about the life; they know what's good or bad for their children. In most of the parents' views, there is nothing like love; it's just only attraction, which decays after a certain period of time. They present very strong perception that they can think nothing bad of their children; after all they are parents.

While these both are fine, both are unable to get the solution of married life failure. Why? Simple, sometimes couples are wrong, and at others, parents. Actually, it is out of both. It doesn't matter how aware and responsible the parents are or how deeper you are in love, there are some other factors, which matter. For avoiding the cursed married life here some great assistance is given:

First, I want to come to the parents, who say they never want to hurt their children; whatever they do, just for their betterment. I don't say you are wrong; but you are also not supposed to ignore their choice directly. If you don't want to hurt your child why are you ruining your image in his/her heart? If you are really careful and want to show your experience and intelligence, you should use it to inspect whether or not that person is right for your child. It is not only for those, who are much strict, but also for those, who are careless about their children. I don't say you just leave them, saying 'it's their life'. Parents must keep watching into the children's life; but not as possession, but as duty.

Now, I am before the couples, who are seeking their life partner in their loves. First dears, you must realize the difference between love and marriage; lover and life partner, and dreams and reality. You would have understood what I want to say. I'm not saying you should never think that your love may be proved as the best one for you, in the entire life.

You may find all the qualities of a perfect lover inside whom you love, but it is not necessary that this perfection will remain, when that one will be your spouse. Even sometimes, your perfect love may not want to marry in entire life. When you are in love, you both don't have so much responsibility as after marriage, so having same expectations after marriage will not be fair.

Overall, I meant to say that if you are not in dreams, your love is attached to real world and then if you both are true to your expectations, undoubtedly, your love will be alive for your whole life.

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Resolve to Become Parents in Love With Two Simple Secrets

Would you like a loving and lasting marriage? Do friendship, love-making, and a life filled with meaning appeal to you? If so, read how one couple I interviewed grew in their marriage with two special secrets that you can use too.

Bob and Nina, married 23 years, still look at each other with respect and love. Their dates are filled with outdoor activities like hiking and camping on Mount Rainer.

I asked Bob and Nina one simple question. "What is the bond that keeps you together?"

Bob grinned and looked at Nina as he spoke. "We've been through so much together. Nina is my rock. She's always there for me. Why would I ever give that up for something frivolous?"

I turned to Nina. "When I married Bob I made a covenant," she said. "Years ago I went out with girlfriends. They always griped about their husbands. I never took part. I met with them again. They were still complaining about their husbands. I thought to myself, 'Why live like that?'"

Next Nina laced her fingers with Bob's. "When we have problems we solve them together." Then Nina raised their clasped hands saying, "This is my covenant."

Love Secret Number 1 for Parents Resolving to Be Lovers:

Choose to give up frivolous fantasies about others. Avoid flirting with others too. Focus on your partner. Go through the hard and happy times together. Appreciate the good in your spouse and in your relationship.

When you each focus on and appreciate each other, you create an unbreakable bond. That bond includes a deep and abiding trust. You know you can rely on the other for support, help, and the love you need. Trust is the rock on which you build your marriage.

Love Secret Number 2 for Parents Resolving to Be Lovers:

Be loyal. Avoid talking against your partner, even with close friends. If you have problems in your marriage work them out together. Make your relationship your covenant.

Knowing that your spouse talks well of you opens up a well of good will between you. It's a relief to feel that your partner is solidly with you, for you, and beside you.

One more thing, your children know when you love each other. They listen to your words. They sense how you feel toward each other. They watch how you act. Why not give them the security and joy of knowing their parents are in love?

Conclusion: 2 Simple Secrets for Parents Resolving to Love Each Other

The above story is an excerpt from my eBook, Parents in Love - 121 Dating Ideas. Like Bob and Nina, focus on each other with loyalty and love. If you do, you'll be creating a rock solid marriage. Your children will know it. And you'll create a meaningful life that lasts.

Jean Tracy, MSS shares stories, tips, and the secret formula all lovers need in her eBook, Parents in Love. With 121 low to no-cost dating ideas and 89 dating coupons, you can laugh, play, and cherish each other forever. Find out more at http://www.kidsdiscuss.com/parents_in_love.asp and become parents in love today.