Do you feel bad every time you're alone on the weekend and everyone else is, well, dating? Do you feel ugly when you attend a party or an event dateless? If so, it could be that you're suffering from dating obsession.
Dating obsession puts pressure on yourself when you're with a guy. You have to understand that dating or finding true love is not a race. Falling in love isn't something you can force yourself or another person to feel. It has to happen naturally, and the sooner you accept this, the sooner you'll be cured of your dating obsession and on your way to having a more fulfilling dating life.
To help you get started, here are a couple of tips to keep in mind the next time you go out on a date.
Tip #1: Mutual enjoyment makes the best date.
Dating obsession makes a woman overly anxious to please her date to the point of neglecting her own enjoyment. Unfortunately, this way of thinking can only backfire. If you try too hard, you'll either end up spoiling your date in a bad way...or he could get turned off.
The best dates happen when both parties are genuinely able to please each other. It's only natural that you want your date to feel good, but do allow the guy to exert some effort, too. Every woman deserves to be wooed on the first date, after all.
Tip #2: It's okay to be alone.
Think of it this way. Your problem with dating obsession could be the very reason why you're unable to meet "The One". Because you're so concerned about not looking desperately single and spinster-like on a Saturday night, you make sure you have a guy with you when you're out on a Saturday night. It doesn't matter if you don't like him much. What matters is that you're not alone.
But what if there happened to be a gorgeous guy who saw you across the room and was instantly attracted? Then he sees you're someone else and he backs down. That golden opportunity was lost, and it's all because you want to project the right image.
So next time the girls invite you out to go clubbing, give yourself a chance to enjoy being single...and completely free to mingle.
Tip #3: Don't look too hard.
Dating obsession makes you slavishly search for "ideal" places to meet eligible guys. But the truth is, the place doesn't matter. An attractive woman will always attract guys no matter where she is. So what you should really work on is to make yourself more attractive, which brings us to our most important tip.
Tip #4: Love yourself.
Don't you know that self-confidence is better than any cosmetic product in making you feel beautiful? Dating obsession makes you eternally worry about what's lacking with you. For a change, why don't you focus on what makes you so special. When you feel good about yourself, this will automatically alter how other people see you...and that include the guys you want to attract, too.
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This article is contributed by Tina Jones from the Unforgettable Woman Publishing Team. She works together with founder Alexandra Fox and writes dating/relationship articles for women. You can find more about Unforgettable Woman Publishing by visiting their website.
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