Can you make a man fall in love at the drop of a hat? Are you aware that the dating laws you are used to following might not work any longer? Would you like to learn the new set of rules for attracting men? The way that men and women seek each other out is changing, as are the rules that govern these interactions. Most women are familiar with the book Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus by Dr. Gray. It shows you how men's minds differ from those of women and how to bridge the gap. You must understand something about male psychology if you want to make your man fall in love with you and keep him that way.
Women love to talk, to meet people, and to share secrets with one another. Men are equally social, but they are much more cautious about exposing their thoughts and feelings to others. Because of these differences, women are often quicker to form a deep emotional attachment-or fall in love, in other words-than men. Sometimes men spend much longer in the getting-to-know-you phase of a relationship than necessary. Either they feel they are not yet ready to move to the next stage of the relationship, or they are simply slow to feel comfortable in your presence. Whatever their motivation for lagging behind, men will eventually catch up their female companions and begin to have feelings of love. And when this happens, there is little you can do to turn off his affections.
There used to exist a very strict set of laws that told men what to look for in a woman. They also told women how to make themselves attractive to available men. There was very little confusion about what made a good woman. Today, however, women face a much more complicated dating system. Men no longer adhere to a set of societal rules when they pick a potential mate. Instead, they rely on their personal tastes. No doubt this is a better, healthier way to choose the person you want to spend your life with, but it does leave women with a more difficult task.
The modern woman can't simply churn out a bunch of needlepoint pieces and hope the men notice how talented she is. Her housekeeping skills don't come into question when a guy scopes her out in a bar. Even her ability to cook won't win her a man, although it might earn a point or two in her favor. Today's "empowered" woman must learn how to attract a man without scaring him away.
One reason that women today have such a hard time hooking a guy and maintaining his interest is that our growing power in society has left lots of men feeling unneeded or emasculated. While it's great to be a powerful career woman, you can't take the same tactics with a guy you'd like to date that you would with your boss or co-worker. You must learn to take a more passive role in the dating game if you want the men to come to you.
This might be hard for a generation that has been taught to dive in and compete with the men on their own turf, but it will give him the confidence he needs to pursue you. Those tricks for attracting a potential husband that you learned from your mother or grandmother have sustained the human race for thousands of years. In some ways they are no longer relevant, but you can still use them to improve your love live. For instance, women were always expected to present their skills and remain otherwise passive. Cooking, sewing, being a good hostess...these are all things you would do in the hope that a man would pass by and notice. Granted, that particular approach probably won't work for you today. But showing off your assets and allowing the men to come to you is still the best way to score a boyfriend.
Let him take the initiative. This feeds the male ego by making him feel in control. He is animalistic in nature, and he needs to feel as if he's in pursuit of something elusive. Present yourself to your best advantage and let him make the first (and second, and third) move.
Don't apply any pressure. Allow him to move at his own pace, or he will get spooked and drop off the face of the earth. If you want to keep him in your life, let him take his time wooing you.
Don't go too far! Nothing will make a guy feel smothered more than a woman who drops the "L" bomb too early in the relationship, hints that you should move in together, or brings up marriage or children. Unless you've already got kids, leave the baby talk alone. Also, since men tend to develop true feelings like love a little slower than women, you don't want to spill the beans about your affections until you know he returns the sentiment.
The idea that men don't fall in love as easily as women is both true and false. It's true that men take longer to reach the point of no return, where they are hopelessly and irrevocably in love. However, it's not true that men are incapable of falling truly in love with a woman, or that they fall out of love more readily. They are simply different in their approach to falling in love, which is a good reason to let him initiate changes in your relationship.
Try not to look too far ahead. Men think more about what's happening to them at the moment than what might happen in the future. They have fun and don't worry about where the relationship is heading. To make your man fall in love with you, you have to learn how to have fun and enjoy the moment instead of worrying about what's to come.
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This article is contributed by Tina Jones. Tina is part of the Unforgettable Woman Publishing Team. She works together with founder Alexandra Fox and writes dating/relationship articles for women who want to understand male psychology, how to attract men, and find true love. You can find more about Unforgettable Woman Publishing by visiting their website.
