I Am Ready to Love - How to Find Out If You Are

Have you been into a bad relationship in the past? Did you feel like your world has tumbled down and you don't want to love again? Have you moved on from it now? Are you ready to love again? There are so many things to consider and realize before you can say, "I am ready to Love again". You have to see it in yourself if you have indeed picked up the pieces and made yourself whole again. Anyone can say "I am ready to love" but deep inside, it is just their excuse sometimes to save themselves from the pain and humiliation of coming from a failed relationship.

Before you can say "I am ready to love again", examine yourself properly first. There are times that you can say this immediately but when your old flame comes back, you will crumble down and feel the pain again. You have to be sure because when you are going to declare this to all the eligible bachelors and bachelorette in the world, you're sure of it you will not hurt anyone you are dating along the way.

How will you find out if your heart is ready to open itself to someone who deserves your love? You will know it if you continue reading below.

You are Happy with your Life and you are Contented

Even if your past partner is just around the corner and you see him or her oftentimes but they don't affect you anymore, then you have moved on. Now, if you are happy with what you are doing and you feel contented with yourself and what you do, then you have to open your heart now to someone and love him or her.

You can go out and Meet other People Confidently

If you feel good about yourself and you go out and meet people then you are conditioning yourself to find a potential partner. But, how will you know if you are ready to love him or her? You will know it if you do not hesitate to go out with them, do things with them and allow yourself to enjoy every moment being with them. You are not holding back and having inhibitions means you say to the world "I am ready to love".

You are not scared to be with someone

Sometimes, when one is not ready to open up his or her heart to someone, they often hold back there feelings and emotions. They put boundaries between the person they are currently dating for fear that they will get hurt again. Fearing that you are too happy being with someone at the moment means that you are not yet ready and you have not yet opened you heart to the world.

You Accept Faults and don't Criticize

Loving is accepting other people and loving them for who they are. If you are on the process of looking for potential partners and are participating in arranged dates but you always find yourself criticizing the person before he or she can show you who they are, then you are not ready to love yet. If you find yourself comparing your date with your ex then you have not yet moved on. Therefore do not declare the "I am ready to love" statement to the world. It is because it is clear that you are not ready to love yet.

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This article is contributed by Tina Jones from the Unforgettable Woman Publishing Team. She works together with founder Alexandra Fox and writes dating/relationship articles for women. You can find more about Unforgettable Woman Publishing by visiting their website.

Are You Ready For Love?

Finding love is a process we often want to speed up. We often ask the following question: When am I going to find the one? It may seem like you have been waiting for an eternity. Even though you may be anxious to find love you need to determine if you are truly ready for love. I was single for a long time before I met my fiance'. I went through a period of time that I was desperate to find love. The thought of finding love seemed to consume me. I thought I really needed to find love in order to be happy. On top of that things were not going very well in my personal life. I had just finished my degree and my search for a descent job seemed hopeless. I guess you can say I was going through a little depression and I was looking for something to pull me out of my funk. I decided to try online dating for the first time even though I had been very skeptical about it. I logged onto the computer and I filled out a very long personality profile. It took forever to fill out the profile which was very frustrating. I must have carried my bad attitude and my current state of depression into the profile filling out process because at the end of that long tedious process I was told "sorry we have no matches for you at this time. Wow!!! I was upset to say the least. If I wasn't already feeling bad about myself now, I had been rejected by an online dating service. At this point I threw an even bigger pity party.

In hindsight, I realize I wasn't ready for love at that time. My emotions were all over the place. If I would have started dating then I would probably have driven the poor guy crazy. I don't think that my "gloomy Gus" attitude would have been too fun to be around. Bottom line I had issue that I needed to work out prior to searching for love.

You may believe finding love is the answer to your problems. You may think that it will cure your loneliness and solve all of your life problems, or at least keep your mother from asking you: "When are you going to get married"? Finding love is great! I am so happy that I have been blessed with a great fiancé. But finding love has not solved all of my problems.

My point is don't look for love in the hope that it will change your entire life. Love greatly enriches your life but it will not completely transform it. If you are expecting for your life to suddenly become perfect, you will be disappointed. You should be living a balanced and healthy life before you pursue love. Finding love is a process, you have to be emotionally stable and clear minded to handle it. You probably are going to have some heartbreaks and disappointments along the way. If you are emotional unstable or socially isolated you will have a hard time dealing with the bumps along the road. One of my favorite song's by India Arie expresses my sentiment exactly, read her lyrics:

"I am ready for love

Why are you hiding from me

I'd quickly give my freedom

To be held in your captivity

I am ready for love

All of the joy and the pain

And all the time that it takes

Just to stay in your good grace

Lately I've been thinking

Maybe you're not ready for me

Maybe you think I need to learn maturity

They say watch what you ask for

Cause you might receive

But if you ask me tomorrow

I'll say the same thing

I am ready for love

Would you please lend me your ear?

I promise I won't complain

I just need you to acknowledge I am here

If you give me half a chance

I'll prove this to you

I will be patient, kind, faithful and true

To a man who loves music

A man who loves art

Respect's the spirit world

And thinks with his heart

I am ready for love

If you'll take me in your hands

I will learn what you teach

And do the best that I can

I am ready for love

Here with an offering of

My voice

My Eyes

My soul

My mind

Tell me what is enough

To prove I am ready for love

I am ready" -by India Arie

You need to prepare for yourself to find love. Here are a few things you can do to be ready for love:

1. Know what you want

Carefully consider what you are looking for in your mate. You need to know what you are looking for before you can find it. You want to have an idea of the qualifications you need in a man to make you happy. If you go looking for love without a "got-to-have" list you will be distracted by all the guys that are out there instead of focusing in on the right candidates.

2. Develop you own social network and group of friends

You don't want to be a "clinger". A clinger is a woman who wants to spend every free moment with her guy. She wants to be talking, texting or hanging out with her guy 24 /7. You will suffocate a guy with this unhealthy behavior. You NEED your own life! You need things that interest you and satisfy you other than your guy.

3. Cut the strings on bad relationships

Often people think they are ready for love but they are still involving themselves in unhealthy relationships. Let go of the past. You need to leave your ex alone, stop calling him when you get lonely or bored. If you don't close the door on old relationships you will not be able to open up the door for the right relationship. Also, stay away from men that are already in relationships or married. If they are already taken they are not for you.

4. Develop yourself

You should have a set of long term and short term goal for yourself. Don't just stare out the window waiting for love, "a watch pot never boils". Focus on developing yourself as a person. Work on improving who you are so that you will be a better person and a more desirable mate. Most men are looking for women that have their stuff together. The competition for a good man is stiff so make sure you are presenting the "best you". Work and develop your physical, mental and spiritual self. There is always something you can do to become a better person!!

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Question to Ask on a Date - Questions to Get Ready For

Are you back in the dating scene again? Do you think your dating skills have gone rusty? Do you think that you need some polishing when it comes to conversing with your date? Dating can be intimidating. Conversing plays the major role in the date. If you say the wrong things during the date, you end up losing the second date. Here's what you ought to do. Relax and enjoy your date. Always be true to yourself. Don't lie on a first date. Also, don't brag too much. He may think that you're too much for him. Also, please refrain from cursing. You're trying to sell yourself. Just like a commercial, it has to be pleasing and eye-catching. A soldier always brings a gun during a battle. Like a soldier, you also need to come in prepared. It's wise if you preparer your answers to common date questions. You can answer any question he asks you. Here are common questions to ask on a date.

Question to ask on a date #1 What are you looking for in a relationship?

This is a thought-provoking question that you need to make your answer right. Please don't say that you want to get married. You're still on your first date and you are already talking about marriage. If you say that, expect your date to be gone if he tells you he's going to the bathroom. This can be provoking but at least your date will know if both of you are on the same wavelength.

Question to ask on a date #2 What do you do for fun?

Don't try to impress him with saying that you love shooting some hoops. There's a tendency that he will think that you're just one of the guys. You can tell him that you're into something adventurous and extreme if you're into that. He will see you as a fun-loving person. What is more is that he will like you for not being stiff. You have to be able to show him that you do know how to have fun. You can also ask the same question to him. That way, you'll know if both of your interests are common.

Question to ask on a date #3 What happened to your last relationship?

This can be a very intriguing question that obviously, he also wants to know. Here's what you should do. Tell him a brief statement as to what happened. Tell him you and your ex-boyfriend broke up because your relationship wasn't working out. Don't dwell too much on this question. Don't say something negative and positive about your ex. Remain neutral. This will make him think that you are open again for another relationship. This will also make him think that you're not hung up with your ex.

Question #4 What are you looking for in a guy?

This question is usually paired with the first question. This is one question that will reveal your romantic side. Please don't blurt out that you a want a guy who has a sports car, a bachelor's pad and such. Don't you think that you're kind of materialistic? When he asked that question, he meant to ask what qualities you are looking for in a guy and not what he has. Tell him the qualities that you want in a guy. If you're into the guy you're dating, you can describe the qualities you see in him. This will make him confident and more interested in you knowing that he has those qualities.

Want to learn more? Go to: 77 Secrets of Love and learn how to make him fall in love with you hopelessly.

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This article is contributed by Tina Jones from the Unforgettable Woman Publishing Team. She works together with founder Alexandra Fox and writes dating/relationship articles for women. You can find more about Unforgettable Woman Publishing by visiting their website.