Love After Loss - Obstacles on the Path to Love

If you are a widow who is thinking about finding love again after your loss, you may be wondering if you are ready. Most likely you are feeling lonely, still grieving the loss of your husband and wishing things were different. Yet, you may also be thinking that 40 years or so is a very long time to be by yourself.

What obstacles are you facing when it comes to seeking love after loss? Some of the obstacles may come from inside your own head. Others may come from friends and family. Here are some things you may be experiencing:

You may have young children and worry how they will respond to your seeking a new love.
You may have mixed feelings about dating. You are aching for companionship, but you feel like it would be a betrayal, since to your way of thinking, you are still married to your late husband.
You may worry that you will never find someone as wonderful as your late husband.
You may not believe that it is possible for you to find love again.
If you have begun dating already, you may fear your friends and family members will tell you, "It's too soon."
You may even have hostile reactions from your relations when you decide to date again.
Friends and relatives may tell you that it is now your lot in life to take care of others and let go of any ideas about finding a new love.
Or they may tell you that you should get out more and date. They may do this way before you feel you are ready.
People may actually insist on setting you up on dates, determined to help you "get over" your loss.

The sense of isolation and loneliness can increase when you have all these thoughts and feelings running around in your head. Sadly, in our culture, people are expected to grieve quickly, in private, and get over it. For example, if you have a job, you may get three days off to grieve, and then you are supposed to get right back into the job as if you never lost the love of your life.

In the same way, people hold many judgments about how you are supposed to progress through the grief. In order to make your way through this obstacle course of mourning, it is up to you to set your own pace. No one can dictate to you how long to take. If and when you are ready to date is your business. Take your time and surround yourself with supportive people.

Also, take care of yourself as you prepare to find love after loss. For more tips and tools about finding love after losing your dear husband, go to [http://fromlosstoloveagain.com]. Become a member and post your comments to share with others about this topic today.