Be Who He Wants While Being Yourself - A Definite Path to Love

Are you ready for a long-term relationship? Do you have someone in mind who you would love to be in love with? Are you prepared for the work of a partnership with someone? If you are ready for a loving, stable relationship but aren't quite sure how to make it happen, read on!

After you play the dating game for a while, you realize that it's mostly smoke and mirrors. There's not much depth to dating. It's all very surface oriented, yet sometimes you long for more. Sometimes you want a relationship that is stable, loving and comfortable.

In order to be comfortable, you are going to have to learn to be yourself around men. It's a hard thing to do because if you've been dating many guys, you probably have felt the need to be someone that you really aren't. Women get caught up in the game of dating and forget that in order for a relationship to be stable and supporting, you really must be yourself.

Being your true self is really the only way to create a sustainable relationship with someone else. When you find the person that you want to be with, then choose not to play the game. Take down those game walls, and let your true self shine through. He will notice the difference and discover that while you may not be what he's used to, you've got something that he just has to have.

It's hard to break out of the role that you've created for yourself, so try to give yourself some time to figure it all out. Let him know that you are ready for something new and different, but don't overwhelm him with your desire for long-term permanency. He will get worried if you are too overzealous.

Explore yourself and your personality in order to really get to know who you are and what you have to give. Once the guy sees the amount of work you are willing to put into the relationship with yourself, he will automatically realize that you are worth investing time and energy into.

It's a hard path, but one that can result in goodness and a terrific relationship. Get to know who you are before you try to get a man to fall in love with you. If he sees that you are honest, authentic and sincere then he will be sure to want to be with you.

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This article is contributed by Tina Jones from the Unforgettable Woman Publishing Team. She works together with founder Alexandra Fox and writes dating/relationship articles for women. You can find more about Unforgettable Woman Publishing by visiting their website.

Motivate and Reward Yourself - Go on Dates!

Like I've said before, you have to keep dating until you find someone. Sometimes, it can be hard to go on dates after rejections and disappointments, but you have to keep trying. If you go out on no less than 2 dates a week for 3 months, there's an 80% chance that you'll find love. If you do the same thing for 6 months, there's a 90% chance. However, you need to be motivated to go on all of these dates. Motivating yourself isn't as complicated as you think.

Some scientists argue that everything you do is because you either want to get a reward or want to avoid a punishment. Think about why you do the things that you do almost every day. You might brush your teeth because you want to avoid the punishment of people thinking you have bad breath, or you want to avoid the punishment of having dental problems. You might go to work because you want the reward of money, you don't want to have the punishment of losing your job, or a combination of both.

Dating is no different. You probably date because you want to be rewarded with finding a great relationship. Sometimes, it's hard to be motivated if you're not rewarded instantly. It may seem like the instant reward of sitting at home and watching a funny show might outweigh the long term reward of finding the love of your life.

Think of it this way: if you buy a latte, you get to drink it almost instantly, but if you want to buy a new car, you have to save up enough money which could take several months. It's tempting to have the smaller, instant reward, but you'll enjoy the bigger reward more when you finally get it. If you give up on dating, you will have the small reward of having an evening to yourself. But, if you stick with it for a few months, you will have the large reward of having the love of your life every day.

Which is more worth it, watching TV or finding love? It's your decision, but I hope that you choose to find love because I know what great happiness it can bring.

If you're still having trouble with motivation, you should get your friends involved. Social consequences are very powerful, so if you tell your friend that you'll go on a double date with him or her, you'll be less likely to cancel because you don't want to upset your friend. You can also have your friend make you give them $25 for every week you don't have at least 2 dates. Think of it like a parking ticket. You didn't do what you were supposed to, and you got fined. Plus, your friend will love it!

If this doesn't sound good to you, come up with your own creative solution. Using these motivation techniques won't just help you in dating, but you can also apply them to other areas of your life.

10 Safety Tips to Protect Yourself While Online Dating

Ladies, men, you too, you MUST protect yourself online. While we've all heard some horror stories, Online Dating can certainly be safe and lead you to great romantic relationship and finding love.

With the wonderful move of Online Dating into the mainstream of our culture so that it is becoming The Norm, we must learn to protect ourselves while pursuing love and dating through Online Dating and Online Personals.

What's single girl to do to protect herself while pursuing love, sex, and romance with Online Dating Sites?

First of all, during the Getting Acquainted stage of Online Dating correspondence, when you are simply exchanging a few emails to before the man asks you out, trust your gut if you are feeling really uncomfortable.

Then here are Top 10 Tips to protect yourself with Internet Personals and Online Dating:

1. Do not give out where you live to a stranger online. Do not provide a stranger you haven't met yet with your home address.

2. Let the man give you his phone number first, then respond with yours to him. Give him a cell number. If your only cell number is with your office, it's time to get a personal cell phone number. This is one you need to feel comfortable giving out. He's asking for your number. If this is a man you're interested in meeting, give him your phone number. Yes, we're hard to get, but, oye, don't make it impossible!

3. For Date 0 you must meet in a public place where it is lighted, not a super crowded nor a super dark environment. Save going to a darkly light dance club together for later after you two have met and hit it off! Maybe for your second date!

4. Meet near where the lady lives. For Date 0 you need to meet near you, where the lady lives, not just in a good very public place.

This is not just good manners on behalf of the man displaying that he is a gentleman, but it is also for your safety.

You then know where it is safe to park, how to safely approach the restaurant or bar.

Men, be a gentleman and meet her over near where she lives. By doing so you display that you are a protective and providing man, not a guy looking to be her equal but only a buddy. Meeting near where the guy lives or "half way" is what friends do. We are aiming for sexual and romantic chemistry here, not being buddies. By doing so, you will distinguish yourself immediately as a Man who is thoughtful and thinking of her safety and displays masculine cherishing behavior towards her femininity.

5. If he doesn't post a photograph of himself online and wants you to start emailing him privately, respond sweetly with the autoresponse option they have a Yahoo! Personals about wanting his photo first. And then send no more messages until he either posts a photo or provides you with a way to view his photo safely online.

Providing you with his MySpace page isn't safe because it reveals your name and MySpace profile to him, and you may have more personal information (name of town where you live....) which you might not want him, a total stranger, to see.

6. Maybe post your residence town as 1 or 2 towns over from where you live if you live in the burbs. This is not lying in your profile, this is protecting yourself. Any adult will understand when you later reveal where you really live.

7. If he is saying his job/career is terribly public like he is a celebrity or public figure (yes, they are at the Online Dating Sites, too!) so he doesn't want to post his photo at his profile, he can email you the address of a website with his photo or cite his name to you.

Men are to protect ladies. If he is more protective of himself than you, forget him. Move on. He's a boy not a man. Men protect ladies. They gave their names, website photos from their news coverage, Yahoo! ID where they posted their photo, something.

If he wants you to email him or set up a separate email address just so he can email you his photo, oye, he's expecting you to go to a lot of effort, and he hasn't even bought you a drink yet. If he is a man, he is making an effort to get you. If not, then not. I'm the pretty one, remember? I go to plenty of effort to look this gorgeous and sexy, and you are enjoying it, I know. Thank you for noticing. Bat, bat, flutter, flutter. However, I'm not making all the effort. Men seek to display their masculine prowess in pursuing us, bless their hearts. Don't you love it?

8. If the man starts to pester you for your personal contact information without revealing his first, just stop emailing with him. He's not worth it.

Remember, first, above all, protect YOU.

9. If a man gets belligerent with your online, block him and delete his messages. Remember, sometimes people are just being jerks. Maybe it was a really bad week at work. We're all human. Sometimes we are shrews. Whatever. Focus on what you want and move one. No need to obsess about it and panic. Just delete, block and move on.

10. Don't give out your personal email address until he has corresponded with you at the Online Dating site for at least 3 emails. You have more safety protection while you are still corresponding at Yahoo! Personals or Match.com than you do once you have moved over to your email account.

If he gets weird in some way where you are not comfortable while at the Online Dating website, you can block him easily and report him. Once over at your own email, he already has your personal email account.

Do be romantic and sensible while pursuing love online, don't you think? Because YOU are totally worth protecting!

Happy Dating!

Combining her audacious humor with a compassionate approach, Online Dating Coach and Dating Expert, April Braswell provides services and products for singles looking to create a great love relationship or simply get more dates!

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Win Back Your Man You Love Dating Without Making a Fool of Yourself

When you realize you still love your ex boyfriend and want to win back your man you love dating you must proceed carefully. Depending on who broke off the relationship there may be additional potential road blocks, but for sure you want to avoid being played and looking like a fool.

We want to make sure you do not end up getting hurt, either.

Most men are driven by ego, even though some do not show it as much as others. As I am sure you know, some are nothing but one big ego!

Because of this you have to be careful how you go about reconciling the broken relationship and attempting to win him back to you. The last thing you want is to start following him around asking to be taken back.

Definitely that would be a boost to his ego, but he could then treat you as a play thing and discard you at will. He would love to be able to tell all his friends that his ex girlfriend could not live without him and came crawling back to him.

Some guys may even try to tell their friends that even if it is not true!

So what should you try that will both get your man back, which is what you primarily want, but also keep your dignity about you? I am sure you want that too but it may have not been in the forefront of your mind.

Here are a couple of ideas to start to win back your man:

1.) If the breakup was fairly recent, it can be difficult, but I want you to wait and just let things chill a bit. Chances are that he might be "feeling free" and kind of enjoying that feeling.

No sense in getting a brush off.

Waiting gives him a chance to realize a few things like:

a.) Girls are not lined up just waiting for him to become available.

b.) He misses you. You are not there for him to lean on, talk to and enjoy being around.

If the breakup has been a while ago then perhaps you could casually bump into him and see if he would be interested in getting together for coffee just to catch up. Keep it from sounding urgent or serious, just friendly.

When he enjoys a simple chat and coffee with you he is going to be inclined to want more and maybe ask you to dinner. Do not jump at the offer, stay casual, thoughtful.

2.) While waiting for time to pass or for him to come to the realization that he misses you, do not put your life on hold. This does not mean that you need to date everyone else in the world to make him jealous, that can backfire.

Instead move forward with some goals you have in life. Upgrade your education, your job or maybe take a trip you have always wanted to take. Let him know that your life is not dependent on his.

You can win back your man with dignity as long as you know what to do and what not to do. It does not have to be rocket science but there are definite do's and don't's you want to be aware of.

Map out a strategy that gets you what you want and makes you nobody's fool. Come to our website at http://www.RelationshipAdviceHelp.com for details.

Mr. Scott has enjoyed assisting people with relationship and marriage issues for many years now. Please note that he may occasionally receive some form of compensation when recommending other experts services or products.