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2012年11月30日 星期五

Can You Gain His Love? Start Here


Are you trying to win the love of a special man, but you're not having much luck at it? Do you always fall into the same pattern of meeting a cute guy then quickly ruining whatever chances you have with him by doing something wrong? Are you quick to form visions of a happy ever after before you even have a first word with him? Love doesn't come at the snap of your fingers. Read on to find out where you can start the love process and really turn it into something long lasting.

If you're on the hunt for a man because you feel empty, because you're life if going nowhere or because you have an agenda to fill, your head is in the wrong place to begin with. Fill your life with what makes you a complete woman and discover who you really are before you try to include someone else in your life.

Sure once you're in a couple there is always room for growth and additional discovery, but if you jump into a relationship with little going on in your life, you're apt to cling to his life. This can work out for a little while, but over time he'll long to have time to himself and will come to lack respect for you as you sit by and do nothing of your own.

Bring a wide array of interesting aspects to a date. He wants to meet someone he'll have a good time with, someone who will make him laugh, think and enjoy life even more. Try to think of him as a friend those first few dates and keep the fun factor high while you try to leave your expectations of a romance behind.

Guys often get overwhelmed by a woman's need to have her dates read like a romance novel. They feel that incredible pressure to live up to some literary hero that, quite frankly, few guys can live up to. Cut him some slack and let him relax and enjoy his time with you.

These dates aren't just about your need to be wooed, but his need to feel like a man when he's with you. The better he feels about being with you, the more that emotional bond will grow and strengthen. Without even realizing it he'll start to love your presence in his life and therefore love you.




To learn more, click Fall in Love and learn Love Mistakes that 99% of women make without knowing.

This article is contributed by Tina Jones from the Unforgettable Woman Publishing Team. She works together with founder Alexandra Fox and writes dating/relationship articles for women. You can find more about Unforgettable Woman Publishing by visiting their website.




Loving and Honest Relationships Right From the Start


If you've decided to step back into the world of relationships, dating can feel pretty awkward at first, if not downright terrifying. After being married, having kids and getting divorced, we can't say we always enjoyed the experience, but we sure did learn a lot. In fact, it was a time of transformation for us. We ended up learning more about ourselves than we ever could have on our own. We're talking about abilities such as learning to speak wisely, to listen lovingly, to stop trying to control our partner or make them turn into carbon copies of ourselves, and to get over having unrealistic expectations of them.

Here is one very practical tip we learned and practiced for having a successful relationship. We call this one the "Date the Four Seasons" tip. Once you are seeing each other exclusively, date for one full year. By dating through the four seasons, you get to experience before marriage many of the events and situations that you will have to live through each year together.

For example, Lewis is Jewish and Diane is Catholic. Diane is much more socially active than Lewis during her holiday from Thanksgiving until New Year's Day. For Diane, it's party time with all the annual gatherings to attend. While these are enjoyable for Lewis, he found there were too many events, too close together. So in choosing Lewis, Diane accepted that he might not attend every single event with her. Lewis, in choosing Diane, accepted that she would attend these events with or without him.

In the summer, Diane discovered that Lewis's job required him to work twelve-hour days during the months of May and June. Lewis learned that Diane visits her mom every summer for two to three weeks in July. Lewis vacations with his children in July and camps with his men's group in August. Lewis realized that Diane would not choose to sit through the long High Holiday service conducted in Hebrew in September. In October, Lewis learned that he'd be spending that month eating and drinking from pumpkin plates and mugs, and in almost every room he would find witches, spiders and skeletons.

We have a friend whose ex-husband told her she became so irritable due to the heat in the summertime that he actually couldn't be around her in those months. We wonder if they both might have avoided a big mistake if he had dated her during the summer?!

Are you getting the picture of the full range of experience that dating throughout the four seasons provides? Enjoy your relationship! Dating has its ups and downs, but, as with any adventure, the rewards can be fantastic.




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2012年11月9日 星期五

Dating Advice - Why You Should Start Dating Outside Your Comfort Zone


Do you have a dating 'type'? If you consider all the dating partners you've had, is there a common theme? Are you still searching for your ideal partner? If the answer to these questions is 'yes', it's time you started dating outside your comfort zone.

Most people find certain characteristics charming or attractive in potential dating partners. However, if you refuse to date anyone without these characteristics, you could be screening out the very person who could be your perfect match.

This is because love is unpredictable, and while you might think you know what you want, making a break from old habits could be the very thing which leads you to dating success. Here are some top tips for broadening your dating horizons.

Challenge your beliefs

Yes, you know that, say, tall men or blonde women tend to catch your eye. However, having dated only tall men (or blonde women), have you found your perfect match? If you have consistently rejected dating partners because they are not who you would usually see yourself with, take a second look. You might have rejected the very person who could make you truly happy.

Face your fears

Some people who stay within a certain comfort zone when dating because this seems like the easy option - dating similar types of people (for example, only people who share your profession, or just people between the ages of 30 and 33), can start to become second nature, while venturing into new territory becomes increasingly daunting.

If this sounds like you, bear in mind that, as soon as you start to move outside your comfort zone, you will start to become desensitized to the change. Your comfort zone will then begin to expand, giving you more and more options when it comes to dating. The more comfortable you are, the more confident you will become with all different kinds of people.

Put past experiences behind you

While learning from dating is usually a good thing, it is important not to let bad experiences prejudice you against whole genres of potential dating partners. For example, while you may have had a dull date with an accountant, this does not mean that all accountants are dull.

Don't rule people out simply because you see them as a 'type' which hasn't worked for you in the past - everyone's different and you may find yourself pleasantly surprised, just when you least expect it.

Break all the rules

Without even acknowledging it to yourself, you might be being governed by assumptions or influences you're not even aware of. Perhaps your parents suggested it would be good for you to marry a doctor, or your group of friends will only consider a dating partner if they have a university degree.

We are all influenced by the people around us, but you need to examine whether or not these are your choices, or whether you are blindly following the crowd, or some distant memory of what you've been told is the 'right' kind of dating partner for you.

Try to identify, and then break free, from some of the unconscious rules you have set for yourself. You will enjoy a much broader range of opportunities and might just find your match.




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2012年10月24日 星期三

Make Him Fall in Love - Start Here For Unending Love


Are you trying to find the best starting point in order to make a guy fall in love with you? Do you know you have a great personality and you're fun and easy to be with, but guys seem reluctant to give you a chance? Are you a wild date and you know how to turn guys on, but you don't understand why they're not calling you back? It's time you learned the difference between dating and relationships.

To a large extent, dating has become a quick and easy way to hook up for sex. It's usually the first aspect of a relationship, and unfortunately, that means it's often the last. The notion that you can win a guy's love simply by hopping into bed with him is a huge myth.

Work on building up his emotions first. Did you know that guys really enjoy simply spending time with a girl they find pleasant and fun? He wants to have a good time, go out and do fun things and he wants it to be with a girl he can laugh with, talk to and feel good about.

Don't get me wrong. Sex is most certainly not far from his thoughts. But guys can handle waiting for it.

And while he's waiting, take each date as an opportunity to show him all the admirable traits you have. You don't want to dump it all on him in one sitting, but let each date reveal a little more about yourself. A guy wants to be proud of the woman he's spending time with and he'll enjoy seeing that you have a full and active life.

On the flip side, however, don't forget to show him that you're capable of admiring him as well. Many women go into combative mode when they're on a date. They feel the need to prove themselves better than men and thereby bash the guy over the head with every accomplishment they've achieved.

Be fun and easy and the guy will be quickly inclined to fall in love with you.




To learn more, click Fall in Love and learn Love Mistakes that 99% of women make without knowing.

This article is contributed by Tina Jones from the Unforgettable Woman Publishing Team. She works together with founder Alexandra Fox and writes dating/relationship articles for women. You can find more about Unforgettable Woman Publishing by visiting their website.




2012年10月20日 星期六

How to Get Dates: Stop Wishing, and Start Dating, Now!


Do you wonder how to get dates? Do you spend too much time alone, thinking about how to get dates, when you could be out having fun? Have you ever stopped to think that the fabulous girl who catches every guy's eye could be you? It's true. Take a look around - that girl is not much different from you, in fact, the differences between you and the popular girl who knows how to get dates at the snap of a finger is probably minuscule. Here are simple steps to stop staying home alone, and start dating now.

Step One: Let Go of Fear

If you want to be able to attract men, you've got to leave doubt and fear behind. Stop worrying about whatever it is that seems to be holding you back, be it your weight, your complexion, your wardrobe, your personal quirks, whatever. Just stop worrying about it, and take steps to correct any problems.

Step Two: Is Your Problem Real?

Make a list of any problems you feel are holding you back from dating. Next, decide if they are really problems. Things like, "I'm not hot enough" are not problems. Be specific. Things like, "bad skin" are problems - but you can fix them easily.

Step Three: Correct Problems

Fixing "fixable problems" is easy. Bad skin can be fixed in about a week - just pay attention to your skin every morning and night, use products that are right for you and don't pick at pimples. Brush your teeth two or three times a day. Stop eating junk food, and start eating things that are good for you. Take a walk every day, or find another way to exercise. This alone should help you start feeling good, and you'll stop asking how to get dates. In fact, people might soon be asking you!

Step Four: Find Your Inner Goddess

This is the real secret. If you want to know how to get dates, this is the one thing you've got to get right. Every woman has an inner goddess, and she is beautiful. She's one of a kind. She has her own likes, and her own dislikes. She has her own sense of style, a great sense of humor, and most of all, she is confident about who she is. She owns herself.

Step Five: Be Confident!

Now that you've found your inner beauty, all you've got to do is release it. Forget about proclaiming to the world that you've found your goddess - guys won't understand, anyway. What they do understand, and what they love, is a confident woman.

Posture - Stand and sit up straight. Practice in front of a mirror if you've got to. Never slouch - not even when you're alone.

Fashion - You don't need to spend millions, but if you want to answer the question about how to get dates, you've got to find a look that's right for you. Check out fashion websites, and if you don't subscribe to fashion magazines, you might think about starting. Pull yourself together, accessorize, and wear clothes you like that make you feel good.

Step Six: Ask Guys on Dates

If you like a guy, pull yourself together, and ask him to go get a drink with you. Don't make it seem like a big deal. One of the biggest mistakes girls make is assuming guys are going to do the asking - and in today's world, it's fine to ask a guy out yourself. Remember, guys are human too. Most men will be flattered that a girl actually asked them to go out, and they'll happily follow after you.




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This article is contributed by Tina Jones from the Unforgettable Woman Publishing Team. She works together with founder Alexandra Fox and writes dating/relationship articles for women. You can find more about Unforgettable Woman Publishing by visiting their website.




2012年9月10日 星期一

When Is The Right Time To Start A Dating Relationship?


People often wonder and ask when the right time to enter into a dating relationship is. Are you one of them or are you already in a relationship?

Is there a particular age at which you are regarded qualified to date? Are there things to consider before asking that girl of your dreams out or is this the right time to say yes to that hunk you so much adore?

In order to answer these questions, I would like to make an analogy with obtaining a driver's licence. My question would be, when is it right to start taking driving lessons? There is a time and season for everything on earth. Everything has a purpose and when the purpose of a thing is unknown abuse is inevitable.Driving tests: oral, theory, hazard perception and practical are put in place to prepare the individual for safe driving. A license is issued after passing the tests to certify that the holder has obtained the necessary standard to drive safely on the highway. This is put in place to prevent / reduce accidents and death on our roads.

To prepare for these tests, the prospective driver enrols in a driving school and takes lessons until he / she is confident and ready to take the tests. Until these tests are passed, you do not obtain a full driver's license. Some may take lessons from parents, friends or relatives while others uses software packages to gain the required knowledge and skills. whatever the case may be, lessons are being learnt and skills are acquired.

In like manner, you should date when you are seriously considering obtaining a marriage license. In order words you date when considering entering into a serious relationship which you hope would lead to the altar. Just like being behind the wheels of a car, you are in the driving seat of the other party's emotions, life and future when in a relationship. The way the affairs of any dating relationship are carried out impacts on both parties.

Many are left scarred as a result of an abusive relationships which goes on to affect future relationships and in some cases their marriage. Though some people deliberately and consciously decide to be become single parents, others get pregnant as a result of their naivety and sincere foolishness. Many people's lives, dreams and aspirations are ruined just because they were in a relationship they were not mature or wise enough to handle.

There may not be a particular age that categorically specifies when it is right to date, the criteria below should be met. When the leaves starts to fall you know that autumn is at hand.

Above the legal age

The law of the land states the age when one is considered to be an adult.

Have parental consent

You need the consent of your parents if you are under their roof. You may be an adult but their support, advice and counsel would help along the way, that's if they know any better.

Be mature

You should be physically and emotionally mature to handle a relationship. Though age may be a factor in determining maturity, it doesn't always apply. Do you have the necessary relational skills to go into a relationship? How much of the temperaments and characteristics of the opposite sex do you know? Do you have the right motives for entering into the relationship, or is it for selfish reasons? Is this relationship a rebound or emotional resting place while you recover from a heart break? Are you in the relationship because of peer pressures or is a hit and run scenario?

Ready to take responsibility

You should be ready to commit to a serious relationship that would eventually lead to marriage. It is not always possible to know for sure that your date is the right one, but there must be a strong indication that he or she is a potential spouse.

Dating without the intention to having a serious relationship is cheap recipe for emotional heart break and disaster. If you do not have the intention of getting married within a considerable time frame, why should you keep a person waiting for 5, 6, 7, 10 years? In such situations breaking up after such a long time would be emotionally disaster especially for the woman whose biologically clock may be past midnight.

Every relationship should be clearly defined and understood by the parties involved. No one should be left in the dark to build castles in the sky. If you do not intend to commit to a relationship for genuine reasons e.g. studies, career etc it would be wise and mature to make it very clear so you do not lead anyone on.

It may sound unusual, but I think couples intending to get married should be asked to attend marriage counselling classes to help prepare them for marriage life. The statistics and rate of divorces even amongst Christians is ever increasing. Love should be the motivation for a true relationship but there are other skills and knowledge to acquire that would help along the way. Marriage it till death, unlike a driver's license that can be revoked divorce is an exception and not the rule

Every decision we take has a consequence, if you make the wrong decision you would reap the harvest. Don't be a fool dating or date a fool. Get the wisdom and understanding to keep you life and future on track.




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